Keeping the right company
Who to befriend, who to avoid, and why it matters to the afterlife.
About 25 minutes of listening
Book 15: Friendship and Brotherhood
Imam al-Ghazali · Ihya’ ‘Ulum al-Din
The fifteenth book of the Ihya explores the rights, duties, and spiritual dimensions of companionship, teaching how to choose friends wisely and maintain brotherhood with faith and integrity.
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From Friendship and Brotherhood.
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"Now, let us return to discussing its rights and requirements and ways to uphold these rights. For those who are greedy for worldly things, their company is like deadly poison. Nature is inclined to imitation and emulation; individuals unconsciously adopt the traits of those they accompany. Keeping company with someone greedy for this world stirs one's own greed, whereas keeping company with an ascetic inspires detachment from this world."
— Imam al-Ghazali, Book 15: Friendship and Brotherhood
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"Keeping company with someone greedy for this world stirs one's own greed, whereas keeping company with an ascetic inspires detachment from this world. Therefore, associating with those who pursue worldly matters is discouraged, while associating with those focused on the hereafter is recommended. Ali, peace be upon him, said, "Revive acts of worship by sitting with those who inspire awe."
— Imam al-Ghazali, Book 15: Friendship and Brotherhood
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"support the oppressed, aid those in distress, assist the weak, guide the lost, return greetings, give to those who ask, enjoin what is right, forbid what is wrong, and be mindful of where you spit — not towards the Qibla, nor to your right, but to your left or under your left foot. Do not socialize with the kings, but if you do, the etiquette is to avoid slander, shun lies, keep secrets, have few requests, refine words, be proper in speech, talk of royal conduct, avoid jesting, and be very cautious with them even if they show friendliness."
— Imam al-Ghazali, Book 15: Friendship and Brotherhood