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What does Islam say about kindness to parents (birr al-wālidayn)?

The Qur'an places the rights of parents immediately after the rights of Allah. The scholars explained what that really demands — in speech, in service, and in the smallest looks.

9 passages from 5 books in the library

Where the answer comes from

The classical approach.

These passages are drawn from 5 books by Ibn Kathir, Ibn Battuta, and Imam al-Ghazali — part of the classical Sunni tradition that carries over a thousand years of reflection on the Qurʾān, the authentic Sunnah, and the consensus of the early community. Nothing below is a paraphrase. The words are the scholars' own, translated from the original Arabic manuscripts.

Read them closely. If a passage doesn't sit right, open the full book in the library and listen to the chapter around it. Context in the classical tradition is everything.

Cover of Hud, Salih & the Destroyed Nations
Hud, Salih & the Destroyed Nations
Ibn Kathir · Stories of the Prophets

14th century · Bosra, Syria
Monumental history Al-Bidāyah wa al-Nihāyah, the world's most widely read Qurʾanic commentary, and the classical Stories of the Prophets.
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  1. "Unhappy Allah mentioned the exchange between him and his father the argument in the dialogues and how he called his father to the truth"

  2. "Then what disgrace could be greater than my far-removed father being in hell Allah will say I have forbidden paradise to the disbelievers"

  3. "I fear that there will touch you a punishment from the most merciful so you would be to Satan a companion his father replied"

Cover of Volume Two: From India to the Lands of the West
Volume Two: From India to the Lands of the West
Ibn Battuta · Rihla — The Travels of Ibn Battuta

14th century · Tangier, Morocco
The Riḥlah — a 30-year, 75,000-mile journey across three continents, and the most important travel account of the pre-modern world.
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  1. "The jurist Hussein recounted that one of his sons renounced his faith after his father, defiantly ordering the tree to be uprooted entirely, which was done."

  2. "After their father's death, they were released from prison, and the Sultan told them not to return to their previous actions."

Cover of Book 12: Book of Marriage
Book 12: Book of Marriage
Imam al-Ghazali · Ihya’ ‘Ulum al-Din

11th–12th century · Ṭūs, Khurāsān
Reviving the inner life of Islam through the Iḥyāʾ ʿUlūm al-Dīn — one of the most influential works ever written in any religious tradition.
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  1. "Mere contracting with a woman prohibits her mothers, but not her descendants, unless intercourse occurs, or if his father or son had married her before."

  2. "Second, the consent of the woman, especially if she is an adult widow or an adult virgin, not being married off by her father or grandfather."

Cover of Book 33: Fear and Hope
Book 33: Fear and Hope
Imam al-Ghazali · Ihya’ ‘Ulum al-Din

11th–12th century · Ṭūs, Khurāsān
Reviving the inner life of Islam through the Iḥyāʾ ʿUlūm al-Dīn — one of the most influential works ever written in any religious tradition.
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  1. "It is also narrated from Ibn Abi Ma'sarah that whenever he went to bed, he would say, if only my mother had not given birth to me."

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