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What does Islam say about raising children?

The Prophet ﷺ spoke tenderly of his own grandchildren and warned sternly against parents who harm their trust. The classical scholars wrote manuals on the ages of a child and what each age asks of a parent.

10 passages from 4 books in the library

Where the answer comes from

The classical approach.

These passages are drawn from 4 books by Imam al-Ghazali, Ibn Battuta, and Ibn Kathir — part of the classical Sunni tradition that carries over a thousand years of reflection on the Qurʾān, the authentic Sunnah, and the consensus of the early community. Nothing below is a paraphrase. The words are the scholars' own, translated from the original Arabic manuscripts.

Read them closely. If a passage doesn't sit right, open the full book in the library and listen to the chapter around it. Context in the classical tradition is everything.

Cover of Book 12: Book of Marriage
Book 12: Book of Marriage
Imam al-Ghazali · Ihya’ ‘Ulum al-Din

11th–12th century · Ṭūs, Khurāsān
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  1. "The sixth is if she is from the people of the book but embraced their religion, after alteration or after the mission of the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, and she is not from the lineage of the children of Israel."

  2. "Difficulty due to having many children which might lead to the need to work hard for a living and engage in undesirable dealings"

Cover of Volume Two: From India to the Lands of the West
Volume Two: From India to the Lands of the West
Ibn Battuta · Rihla — The Travels of Ibn Battuta

14th century · Tangier, Morocco
The Riḥlah — a 30-year, 75,000-mile journey across three continents, and the most important travel account of the pre-modern world.
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  1. "They highly regard the memorization of the Holy Quran, making their children wear chains if they fall short in memorization until they complete it."

  2. "He had a brother in this city with substantial wealth who left young children under his care, and I left him preparing to take them to Baghdad."

  3. "The Sultan sent some of the emirs to the Sheikh, and they shackled him, his children, the judge of Khol, and its market inspector,"

  4. "Among the negative practices are the public appearance of servant girls and small children naked showing their private parts."

Cover of The Story of Dawud & Sulayman
The Story of Dawud & Sulayman
Ibn Kathir · Stories of the Prophets

14th century · Bosra, Syria
Monumental history Al-Bidāyah wa al-Nihāyah, the world's most widely read Qurʾanic commentary, and the classical Stories of the Prophets.
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  1. "They expressed that they had been driven from their homes and families and felt it was right to fight for their oppressed and captured children"

  2. "And why should we not fight in the cause of Allah when we have been driven out from our homes and our children have been taken?"

Cover of Volume One: From Tangier to the Lands of the East
Volume One: From Tangier to the Lands of the East
Ibn Battuta · Rihla — The Travels of Ibn Battuta

14th century · Tangier, Morocco
The Riḥlah — a 30-year, 75,000-mile journey across three continents, and the most important travel account of the pre-modern world.
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  1. "When the battle occurred, Tenghis defeated them, entered the city of Otrar by force, killed the men, and took the women and children captive."

  2. "and sent the remainder to his family and children for them to drink, as they do with those they believe to have good fortune."

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