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How do I deal with loneliness as a Muslim?

Loneliness is a door to Allah the scholars pointed to specifically. The heart that has only Allah left to turn to, they said, has been given a gift.

10 passages from 7 books in the library

The classical scholars saw loneliness as a door to Allah rather than only a hardship. Al-Ghazali, in his Etiquettes of Seclusion, counsels the one whose heart feels confined by solitude to remember death and the loneliness of the grave, putting present aloneness in perspective. Yet he balances this: "a righteous companion is better than solitude, and solitude is better than" bad company. The heart left with only Allah to turn to, the tradition holds, has been given a gift — for true intimacy is found in turning to the One who alone endures.

Drawn from the classical sources below — in the scholars' own words.

Where the answer comes from

The classical approach.

These passages are drawn from 7 books by Imam al-Ghazali and Ibn Kathir — part of the classical Sunni tradition that carries over a thousand years of reflection on the Qurʾān, the authentic Sunnah, and the consensus of the early community. Nothing below is a paraphrase. The words are the scholars' own, translated from the original Arabic manuscripts.

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Cover of Book 16: Etiquettes of Seclusion
Book 16: Etiquettes of Seclusion
Imam al-Ghazali · Ihya’ ‘Ulum al-Din

11th–12th century · Ṭūs, Khurāsān
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  1. "remember death and the loneliness of the grave whenever his heart feels confined by solitude."

  2. "Be certain that a righteous companion is better than solitude, and solitude is better than"

  3. "Hearing about good and evil alone can alter one's disposition, let alone witnessing it."

  4. "of one's inner self, which cannot be achieved in solitude. For any content person alone"

Cover of Book 40: The Book of the Remembrance of Death and the Afterlife
Book 40: The Book of the Remembrance of Death and the Afterlife
Imam al-Ghazali · Ihya' 'Ulum al-Din

11th–12th century · Ṭūs, Khurāsān
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  1. "Glory be to Him who is alone in dominion and authority, who alone merits eternal existence,"

Cover of The Story of Musa
The Story of Musa
Ibn Kathir · Stories of the Prophets

14th century · Bosra, Syria
Monumental history Al-Bidāyah wa al-Nihāyah, the world's most widely read Qurʾanic commentary, and the classical Stories of the Prophets.
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  1. "There is no deity, but Allah alone with no partner to him belongs sovereignty and praise and he is over all things omnipotent"

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